Alright I'm not the type of person who likes to tell the whole world when I get really frustrated and why, nor do I really like reading peoples blogs when they're really negative all the time. But I have to get this out there!
I think I have the best job in the world and I am really lucky to have started working there when I was a teenager. For those who don't know what I do...Remember when your a little girl and playing dress up, and you played "bride" or "getting married" or something along those lines. You put on a white skirt and white shirt, with your mom or older sisters prettiest high heels, grab their sparkliest necklace and ring and attach a pillow case to your hair for the final touch. TA-DAH! That is my job...I get to play dress up and make every girl extremely happy, many of which cry because they know they look beautiful, by helping them find their dream wedding dress. Something they will look back at YEARS from the day they get married and still say...I LOVE MY WEDDING DRESS! Sounds like so much fun right?
I have been doing this for the past 6 years. I've come to love it and know exactly what I'm doing. But there is only ONE thing I can NOT stand or really put up with. Girls who can't decide what their standards are and it's usually the Mormon girls for both prom and weddings. I had a bride come in today and she is LDS and getting married in the temple. She comes in and says she's found a dress some where else but it didn't have sleeves on it and that she needed a dress with sleeves, but was very picky about what kind of sleeves they are because she doesn't want it to look like a Mormon dress. Well I'm sorry you are a Mormon girl so deal with it! Then we spend an hour and a half trying on every different kind of wedding dress. The whole time she is complaining about the sleeves and them being to long and digging into her arm and they aren't pretty enough, etc. etc. So i ask her if she wants to try on a strapless dress and she says yes. We put one on and she said yep it's just the sleeves that i hate so I don't want a sleeved dress.
Ok there are so many things wrong with this. I wanted to just sit there and yell at her, do you realize what your saying? You are going to have to wear sleeves for the rest of your life so why are you choosing to not be completely modest on your wedding day when your getting married IN THE TEMPLE! You will always look like a Mormon girl to people who wear strapless dresses because you are SUPPOSE to have high standards. So DO NOT sit the fence and tell me you believe in being modest but you won't act upon it. I love what my friend said about it today "It's like what Elder Maxwell talked about-those who are wanting to live in Zion but are keeping a summer home in Babylon."
Moral to the story...Pick your standards and don't sit the fence. The fence is not a comfortable place to be. You can't pick what parts of the gospel you believe in and which you want to ignore. It doesn't work like that, they all go hand in hand. You can't say I believe in the Book of Mormon but I don't believe in Joseph Smith. You can't say I believe in being modest but not when i go to the lake or to prom or on my wedding day. I can say that experiences like this make me realize where I stand and what my standards are and I'm not ashamed of it.
Amen sister. She will learn quickly when her mother sees her dress that she made the wrong choice. Not to mention (if she makes it this far) in the temple when she changes into that strapless dress, people will give her really dirty looks. The guilt alone will kill her. She could probably pull it off, but she'll need a cover up otherwise her new undies are going to show and she will look and feel ridiculous.
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